Relax Dad… it will show up
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Over the years I have learned, through practice, how to coach MYSELF into a relaxed state in stressful situations.
I do this with my coaching clients and my wife and I even teach it to our 4 year old son, Keaton.
Over the past 3 years when he is frustrated or begins to become anxious over a situation, we have taught him how to breathe and relax himself. Especially when he loses a certain car or his favorite Lamb that he sleeps with, I very often take him, ask him to breathe and say: “relax, it will show up.”
Sure enough it always does!
The other day I was taking Keaton to the hobby shop to look at the BIG TRUCKS and I could not find my keys. I had become a bit flustered when my son looked at me and said, “Relax Dad, it will show up.”
Sure enough it was right in my pocket!
I hope this brought a smile to your face as it did mine. I now have a few questions for you:
1) How do you relax yourself in stressful situations? You deserve to understand how YOU do it… and if you don’t know how to yet…
2) Discover what your process is to shift from a state of being stressed to relaxed? You might require assistance from a friend, spouse or coach on developing this.
3) Who is the person that can assist you with these situations? (a coach, spouse, mentor or child)
Feel free to share this post with others and I would love to read your comments on what this did for you.
June 28th, 2010 at 12:10 pm
I have written down this message because I can’t rely on anyone but myself to get me to the place I need to be. I think the stress of a situation is good to a point… makes the appreciation for the relief that much better. But… I do need the reminder!
June 28th, 2010 at 9:12 pm
In the moment of stress/panic of a given situation, the best strategy is to “chill out”. The heated moment does not service the finding/solution of the problem. Out of the mouths of babes..”Relax Dad…it will show up”. The children are our teachers…amazing how that works.
When one gets centered and neutral to the situation, the subconscious can kick in and assist…suddenly we find the item misplaced. Solutions are in the calmness…a peaceful center.
June 29th, 2010 at 8:50 am
Kids do have a way of making things better, I might have something to do with their perspective on the world at 3 feet. This reminds me of last Winter when I took my son to the Mountain for the first time to learn how to ski, and when we got there it was so busy we had to park int he shuttel bus lot. I was so anger I wanted to go home, but my wife said I would break his littel heart if we left. So we got in line with all the equipment and the bus showed up several hundred feet away from where we were standing and I was livid and started to shlep all this gear towards the bus with my son in tow (completely BS’d at teh point mind you). My son looked up at me and with the biggest smile on his face said, “I can’t believe we even get to take a bus, this is the best trip ever! Thanks Dad!” We’ll that was my moment of “Relax Dad…” adn it was one of my favorite memories to date. Thanks for the smile Jeff; that Keaton is a good little guy 8^)
July 13th, 2010 at 4:57 pm
It’s always good to have someone to talk to. They can help you see a problem from a different angle. Or at least crack a joke.